Friday, December 4, 2009

Interview with Barbara on CTV.ca: Gift ideas for guys shopping for the women in their lives


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Sheri Block, CTV.ca
Date: Wed. Dec. 2 2009 3:20 PM ET

Lindsay remembers feeling absolutely delighted when she opened a Christmas gift from her boyfriend to find a beautiful bra.

But her delight soon turned to disbelief when she realized it was two cup sizes too big.

"It was very flattering in that he thought I was much more endowed than I actually was but it was a little bit awkward," says the 29-year-old from Toronto, ON, of the incident that happened a few years ago. "As soon as I saw the tag, I just couldn't stop laughing."

The two had been dating for two years (they've since broken up) and she couldn't believe he had no idea what size she was. She later found out he had gone into the local lingerie store and tried to figure it out by holding up his hands to illustrate and judging from the chest sizes of the sales clerks.

"Anytime you're in the first year or two of a relationship and buying stuff like that, I've always found it pretty damn hard to have any idea what the numbers are," admits the ex-boyfriend.

"I guess I felt a little stupid (when she opened it) but at the same time, how the hell am I supposed to know? I'm sure that happens a lot."

He has definitely learned something from the mishap - he now writes the bra and underwear size of the girl he's dating on a business card, just in case he needs to get them a present.

But many guys are still in the dark when it comes to buying a gift for the lady in their life and find themselves awkwardly staring up at the vast wall of bras wondering what they got themselves in to.

Barbara Captijn, director of Insider Shopping Toronto Ltd., says women need to give their man a little guidance or they can't be disappointed if the gift is off the mark.

"Like everything else in life, I think we have to show men, 'This is what I like and this is what I want,'" says Captijn with a laugh. "Because they are not brought up with that kind of training and I think particularly modern guys must be confused (about) what we want."

Captijn, who started up her personal shopping service business in Toronto two and a half years ago after working in Europe for 20 years, says guys are more sensitive than women might think and they actually try really hard to get a gift their girlfriend or wife will love.

"I really think that's important and they put down some money for it as well so they want to make sure they get it right and I think they get a bit nervous about that."

Captijn recently took a male client shopping to a lingerie store in Toronto's upscale Yorkville neighbourhood and "opened his eyes" to a world of possibilities - everything from elegant sleepwear to crystal-adorned underwear - and since the staff was made up of trained lingerie fitters, he learned a lot.

"It's not just about buying bras. It's like, 'Would we go shopping to buy a jock strap?' There's far more to it than that." .... Click here to read the full interview on ctv.ca